Singled Out

So I magically remembered...

I've come to a very exciting place where I am happy being single.  I think this is important for several reasons.  First, how many women actually get to this point?  Unfortunately, I think its still pretty rare to find a woman who is single and really, truly, deep-down ok with it.  I'm pretty proud to count myself among these few.  Secondly, and this is going to sound selfish, but I get to make decisions based 100 percent on what I want.  I don't have to think of anyone else.  I have complete freedom.  Now this has actually helped me become less selfish in many ways.  I want to maintain my close friendships so I'm learning how to work at that through long distances.  If I want to spend the afternoon calling every single one of my close friends I can do that.  It applies to bigger decisions as well- I want to spend my summer in Hawaii and Washington, so (circumstances permitting) I'm going to.  No worrying about maintaining a relationship over distance for the summer.  What's really cool about this is that when I find someone who makes me want to hand in my singleness I know I will be more than happy to give up the freedom I currently have.  But while I have it I'm going to enjoy the heck out of it.  Thirdly, being single has uncomplicated my life.  It has allowed me to focus on all sorts of other things like my friendships, family, school etc.  Fourthly, whenever I date from now on I will hopefully focus on the things I truly want in another person.  I won't be dating with the small fear of being alone in the back of my mind, causing me to shift my ideals.  This will hopefully give me the patience needed to wait for the person who fits well with me and my ideals.  

I don't mean to sound smug in my singleness.  I know relationships and marriage are a great adventure that have their own set of positives to replace the ones listed above.  I know I'll enjoy discovering these perks when the time comes.  They're fantastic for different reasons.  But as someone who always wanted to find their perfect match early on in life (I always envisioned college sweethearts) I'm proud to be in this place in my life.  So I'm bragging about my accomplishments on my blog a little.  I hope you'll allow me this little self indulgence.  I promise I'll brag about someone I love next entry.